Here’s a complete guide how to pickup women at bar/club and Get Laid. This guide can be applied either going with your friends or going solo by yourself(The Boss way). Both ways gets you laid.

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My story of going alone to clubs and becoming good at getting laid that way

I share first a few of my stories about going solo to bars. This is a short version of my story about ‘shy, nice guy who is invisible to woman‘ turning to Confident outgoing guy living a full Player lifestyle. If you are interested more about my story, read it here. When I started my journey to transform for better person: self improvement , becoming good with women, breaking my social anxiety and shyness; I throw myself straight to the fire. Alone, sober to the nightclub. This was not probably the best way to start this, but I wanted the change on my life. What can you expect of insecure virgin going alone in nightclub? I was sweating and anxious. Just wanted to get f@#k out of there, back to safe haven, my home. But I knew I had to go out of my comfort zone if I wanted the change. So I went for it and forced myself the most uncomfortable situations I could experience at the time. I approached a lot of women. And I got rejected a lot. Didn’t even get phone number back then. I barely could be talk with them 2 minutes and then got blown a way. But I kept going. Few years later, alone on clubs again: I enter to the club and 15 minutes later leave with hottie, going back to my place. Few days later I go again to bar, straight to the dancefloor and few minutes later making out with hot girl, not long until I end up in bar’s toilet to get my dick sucked and banging her. Then again, not long time until I hit the club, this time leaving the club with two girls who are friends and live at the same place, ending up banging both of them. I wouldn’t never believe I could do that years ago. My only goal was to find a cute average girlfriend. But when it all clicked, I found multiple of them. I also lived a full player life style in between the short or long term relationships, by going multiple times a week to clubs for getting chicks. These were just minor few of the countless adventures by going solo. I don’t want brag, but to motivate you. The point of this was, you can do it too, if you are ready to leave your comfort zone and start your self improvement journey. It requires a self discipline and time. That’s my story shortly. I will tell a more detailed life story of mine in future, but let’s not go to off topic. You want to bang hot chicks, below is the way to go:

The preparation and how to dress

Grooming, styling, maximizing your potential. If you already haven’t read the guide how to become as good looking as possible, check it out here.

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Other notes before going to bar

One important thing what you should not do before going out, is to masturbate. This will instantly kill your motivation and you are more likely making up reasons why to not go out there. Also, if you are taking alcohol, you are less likely getting that whiskey dick when you are don’t fap before. If you are anxious about getting it up, check this post about boosting male performance. If you are too nervous about going alone, drink example a couple of beers and listen some music that pumps you up for lessening the anxiety. You don’t need this after you got good at this, but if you are just starting, this can be a good way to relax a little bit. If you haven’t read about yet this post about how to get over the anxiety of approaching women, read it here. I was myself so nervous when I went the first night alone, that I had to take some alcohol. After this I went on sober thought, and that’s when the best development happens. After you go sober out of your comfort zone, the comfort zone will dramatically expand. Do this again on drunk afterwards, and you feel unstoppable.

At the Bar/Club

1. Investigate Enter the club and grab a drink if you feel so. This will relax you a little bit. I take a beer or just water, depending if I’m thirsty for beer at the moment. I don’t take alcohol for lessening the anxiety, as I’ve done this so many times I can do this sober too. You will too if you already don’t, after you get good at this and get the experience. I can say it’s pretty relieving feeling when your dating life isn’t dependent of alcohol. This also saves a lot of money. Walk around and take a look at how’s the crowd there. If there is a ratio of 90:10 guys to girls, just change the bar to another where is more girls. I may try to pickup these few first, but it’ll probably go nowhere. Sometimes I had succeed to pull on cases where there were mostly guys, but that’s rare, so I prefer places where are more opportunities. 2. Approaching After wandering around and realizing a good possibilities of girls you would be attracted to, start cold approaching immediately. This way you get on the mood and outgoing vibe, and won’t just stuck in the table. There are nights when I have been luckily on the right place at the right time, and pulled the first girl I approached. Then there are nights when I’ve gone more than 20 approaches, and still didn’t managed to pull. The variance can be a huge.

Where to approach?

Now if you have no idea where to pickup girls at bar, these are good places:

• Smoking room. More quiet and easy to start convos like asking a light.
• At bar when getting drinks. It’s good place to start convos, and get out easily if it’s not going anywhere.
• Dancefloor.
• Quiet spots (These rarely appear in nightclubs)

Not as good places:

• Girls sitting at table. 3 is a good amount. If they are just 2 of them, you need to entertainment her friend so she won’t cockblock you. Sometimes though it’s okay for her friend if you are just 3 of you there to have all the time with you and her. 3 of girls is better, as now they have 2 of them still left to hang out each other and you can have all the time with the girl you are picking up.

Bad places:

• People having their own inside social circle. Usually bunch of guys and girls who are only together and don’t socialize none out of their circle. Not only if you are picking up girl from this kind of group, there usually comes the jealousy guys trying to cockblock you. Avoid these, so you don’t waste time.

How to open?

Earlier I used to mass approach and go for inside groups I mentioned above, even I knew it wouldn’t go anywhere. It was back then just training to get rid of approach anxiety and expand my comfort zone. Now I only approach these who I know I would have chances, like not jumping on those inside circles. Examples of how to open conversation:

• “Hello, how’s your night going so far? you are cute btw”
• “Hi you are hot, wanna dance?”
• “You are both cute, how’s your night?”
• “You have a lighter” [she gives a light] “Thx, you are cute btw, I’m …[hand shake]”

Showing your intentions right away that you are attracted to her and want to f@#k her. Not some indirect opening lines where she may think you just want to have a conversation with her. It’s not a desperate move to compliment her, at least when you aren’t doing it too much. On club environment it’s all about you want to f@#k . The earlier you show your intentions, the better. She will anyway decide in the first few minutes of your encounter either she will have sex with you or not. So it’s just better to make clear that you are the Man who do what he want’s and is confident enough to be straight about this. Not playing some stupid games. You: “Nice wristlet btw, most be worth of thousands as you are rich. Don’t worry I’m not going to steal it, just looking it haha” Her: “Haha, should I believe you” A lot of physical touching and flirting. This is what it’s about. You can push her a little bit and then pull her back, making her more into you. Like: You: “You are so perfect. Only bad thing is, I don’t date blondes” Her: “That’s sad”. You: “Maybe I can make an expectation with you. Maybe” Her: “Nice haha”

How to go for make out?

Now when you have a little spark and sexual tension, it’s time to go for make out. Don’t ask for it. Go for it. Like: You: “Your lips look so good” Her: “Thanks” Pull her against you and make a little kiss. Like in movies. Then continue it if she agrees. Making it more passionate. If she is into you, you can actually ask at this point if she is willing to go for after party. Don’t ask straight for sex. Ask something like: “It’s pretty hot here, I would like to leave. Should we go to your or our place?” She may reject at this point, but it doesn’t mean she is not going to f@#k you tonight. Just say: “Sorry, I’m taking things too fast. I don’t really do one night stands haha. I go for dates”. Take a step back and tease her. Ask again after a while if she would like to leave. Some will leave pretty fast, some not so fast. Just be patient. And don’t go desperate. This will kill the attraction immediately. That was an example step by step approach to sex at bar. But the formula is same. Approach, tease her, flirt and be playful, make it physical and lastly ask for after party.

Escalating on the Dance Floor and going for After party

Here’s a guide for picking up women on dance floor.

How to deal with her cockblocking friend(s)?

There is no need for wingmen. Just be cool and friendly to her friends, make your intentions clear to them either. Say you really like their friend and ask a permission if you can borrow her. This way the girl you are picking up also is more likely to have sex with you as she got an permission from her friends. When she or they agree, just do the steps of escalating, teasing and asking for place where to f@#k . If her friend(s) won’t agree you, you can still f@#k her though if she is attracted to you, but chances are high that you are not going tonight. Reasons can be example that she don’t want to ruin her reputation as looking too cheap. Just take phonenumber and set up date if you can’t get afterparty with her tonight. It’s always better to approach a group of 3 girls or more than 2. It’s easy when there is 3, as you take the one of them, they still have 2 of them to have company for each other. In this situation just try to take her to somewhere other place where you can be only the two of you, example on dancefloor where you can escalate physically. If there are only 2 girls, it’s little bit harder, but highly possible. Just have a company with them both, but make your intentions clear for who you are attracted to. You can go for make out at this point, but it’s maybe better to tease her and act playful. Some girls are okay with their friend going for make out with stranger in front of them, and some don’t. If it’s the later, ask them both to dancefloor, where you can physically escalate her with ”permission”. In good situation her friend finds a guy and you can now be only two of you with your girl. Not necessary to escalate physically though in these kind of situations where there is 2 girls, if you are sure she is attracted to you. Just ask in good time if they have plans for afterparty. If they don’t you can be with them until bar closes and ask her now for your place. From my experience their friend won’t bother if you are going with her, as long as you acted cool and were friendly to this friend. My first lay from bar happened this way. Before this I had played some stupid games, but now I was just f@#k the ”rules”, and had fun conversation with 2 girls at bar. I didn’t escalate physically at any point. When the bar closed, I just asked from one of them if I can come over her place for tonight. And she agreed. It’s just always faster lays when you can be private with her on bar.